Tuesday, March 25, 2008
Schooling & Socialization
It seems to me that everything gets blamed on home schooling if a child was home schooled, but nothing gets blamed on public schooling if a child went to public school. I mean, if people go to public school & end up in jail, nobody blames public school for their lack of proper socialization. And I don't think they should. The problem has a lot more to do with family & community than it does with school. In the same way, if a child is home educated, it hardly seems fair to blame all their "issues" on the fact that they didn't go to public school. It's entirely possible, though, that family & community bear some responsibility for those issues. For example, I knew many young women in my college who were home schooled prior to college. All of them seemed to have more "uniqueness" than the rest of us. I viewed that as a positive thing. They marched to the beat of their own drum & were less affected by social pressure. On the other hand, some of them were incredibly naive. This isn't the fault of home schooling any more than it would be the fault of public schooling if they had been to public school. It just means their parents didn't provide them with adequate information in some areas of life...typically sexuality, often political issues & societal concerns. People often think of this as the result of home schooling because it's harder to get out of public school without finding some things out. But, really, it's a parenting issue, not a schooling issue. And, honestly, I think it's disturbing that we expect public schools to fill in the gaps wherever parents fail. If we really think that kids who go to school are better socialized *because* they went to school we aren't taking enough responsibility as parents for the socialization of our children.